An Authored article by Mr. Niranjan Gidwani, Consultant Director | Member UAE Superbrands Council | Charter Member Tie Dubai | Hbr Advisory Council
Introduction: Since my teenage years, I’ve been fascinated by human behavior – understanding what drives happiness and contentment versus stress and insecurity. My observations across various settings – from bustling airports to serene picnic spots – have led me to a profound realization about life and perspective on life, inspired by the insights of Dr. Wayne Dyer.
Observing Human Behavior: Each week, I dedicate hours to observing people in malls, restaurants, and other public places. It’s clear that throughout life, our behaviors fluctuate, influenced by different life phases. However, most of us tend to lean towards either being inherently joyful or predominantly troubled.
The Parking Spot Metaphor: Dr. Wayne Dyer’s analogy of searching for a parking spot resonates deeply with me. He suggests that our subconscious often focuses on the lack – the filled parking spots – rather than the availability of just one open space. This mindset extends beyond parking lots, affecting our overall perspective on life.
Shift in Perspective: If we constantly focus on negatives – dishonesty, crowded metros, unsatisfactory food – that’s what we’ll find. Yet, if we choose to seek positivity and solutions, our experiences and perceptions shift significantly.
Path-Dependents and Path-Creators: Society comprises path-dependent individuals who offer stability and path-creators or disruptors who envision the unseen. The younger generation shows promise as path-creators, challenging the status quo. However, there’s a rise in ‘path destructors’ whose actions aim to disrupt harmony.
The Role of Guidance and Values: Traditionally, we’ve turned to family, teachers, mentors, governments, and religion for guidance and value affirmation. However, this established model faces challenges and breakdowns in the contemporary world.
Choosing Our Focus: Do we dwell on the numerous irritants in life, or do we choose to concentrate on aspects that bring us joy and contentment? This shift in attitude can profoundly change our perception of life.
Conclusion: The search for a parking spot is unexpectedly analogous to our approach to life. As we enter 2024, let’s strive to belong to the category of the inherently happy and contented, contributing to a more sustainable world. This reflection aligns with the evolving definition of ‘sustainability’, a term that has become increasingly relevant in today’s discourse.