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Shine bright are often afraid of their own light

by PrittlePrattleNews

How often have we heard of a Shine student who barely passed an exam celebrating whereas a student having scored a 90% feeling unhappy at the thought that “I could have scored a 95%!”

As a therapist, I come to Shine across several young adults in my private practice having tremendous self doubt and more often than not are constantly battling an internal pressure of high expectations. Somehow whatever they do or achieve is never enough. 

Of course, the constant praise and appreciation that they receive from family, friends and teachers make them believe that the only way they can win at life is by winning at exams. 

They manifest severe anxiety about their own potential and develop an imposter syndrome believing they are not good enough. They can’t to come to terms with their limitations and have feelings of low self worth inspite of having one of the brightest minds. 

This could reflect in their social behaviour where conversations become challenging and social skills are limited. As a lateral thinking skills trainer, I know how gifted individuals suffer because they very rarely find people who they can converse with and have intellectual stimulation which is so critical for them to thrive.

The greater paradox is that these individuals who doubt their own abilities and are geniuses are almost afraid to be found out.

I see several teenagers feeling socially awkward or unable to develop relationships because they can’t deal with candy floss talk and want to make deeper connections but are unable to do so. An inability for small talk coupled with high aspirations to do something meaningful but no clarity about what next is the dilemma they face. They feel lost and unsure about themselves when they find themselves different and unable to blend within social groups easily.

As Marianne Williamson says, “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?”

And this keeps them  from showing their full potential and they keep playing small. Parents are often at a loss to understand what is happening and attribute it to academic or peer pressure. 

This needs early intervention and assessment to help them cope with their challenges and deal with the internal pressures they face to Shine.

The importance of dealing with one’s limitations cannot be stressed enough. Counseling and therapy can play a pivotal role in the road map of such individuals and they can deal with their inner world with a lot of resilience and strength with the right guidance. It could mean different things for different people. Lateral thinking and creative out of the box techniques can be very effective .  For some it could be volunteering for a cause or an internship to gain a better perspective. Exploring the possibilities that are available to them can assist them in making decisions which are in alignment with their true selves. Life becomes easier when we can deal with our strengths and limitations and make the most of our unique gifts and talents to show up in the world. 

This news was shared to Prittle Prattle News via press release.

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